For The Love Of Humanity, Stop Apologising!
Rita Ora (a singer, she did Your Song — that one with the catchy bibbly bobbly backing) has recently apologised for having a thirtieth birthday party. It was apparently a ‘small’ affair, with thirty guests (one for each year, presumably). It was in a restaurant in London during lockdown. Restaurants aren’t allowed to open (except as food takeaways) and we are only allowed to meet one person who isn’t from our household — and that has to be outside. Even if she has a thirty person household, they shouldn’t have been in a restaurant.
Rita’s party was broken up by the police.
She has posted a three-paragraph apology on her Instagram page. She described how embarrassed she felt, how she has put people at risk and that she takes full responsibility for her actions. She strikes a very contrite tone.
But is Rita Ora actually sorry? Or does she feel she has to apologise to maintain her public image?
We hear it all the time. Politicians are forever apologising for tactless, unkind or downright idiotic things that they say. Mike Hedges (a Labour MP) described Brexit as being like “like getting divorced after 43 years. It might look better on the outside with all these young women available to you. But I think the reality may well be something different.” He later apologised.
Today, HSBC have said that they will apologise when they have their senate hearing about money laundering. So they are not sorry at the moment — they will be sorry by their hearing. Apologising must take some planning?
A website glitch wiped Currys PC World giftcards , leaving the owners or the cards unable to spend them. Guess what Currys PC World said? You got it. Sorry.
Dr Rosina Allin-Khan, a Labour MP, misused people’s data and used House Of Commons stationery for inapproprite purposes (it’s not allowed for campaign purposes). She was told to reimburse the costs and…can you guess? Yup. Apologise.
There has been an inquiry into Priti Patel’s behaviour. (Priti Patel is the UK home secretary.) The inquiry found that she had bullied the home office staff. So…she apologised.
Everyone is at it. The little list above were a quick search on the BBC News website. I could have continued giving examples until I had to apologise for the length of this piece!
I have had enough of it. I remember correcting my children for delivering meaningless apologies. Thes adults should know better!
According to Merriam Webster, sorry is a feeling of regret or penitence. I agree with them. These days ‘sorry’ and ‘apologise’ are used to mean “I’m sorry I got caught and I won’t get caught again.
That isn’t apologising and until famous people and corporations can apologise properly, I am not accepting them!
Ms Ora, your apology is unaccepted!